Posts tagged dating
What Does Sex Have To Do With Body Positivity?

My journey to body positivity has included, and can largely be attributed to, the boudoir photoshoots I did in 2018. It was the first time I saw myself as a sexual being, and unapologetically. When I went on a friend’s podcast to talk about body positivity, I started to think about mind blowing consensual sex as a part of loving my body.

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How to Tell if a Guy is Interested in You

I’ve been listening to a lot of dating podcasts lately. I’ve summarized what I have learned from these very interesting podcasts and my own sad dating life into a neatly organized essay on why men do the trash things they do.

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Learning to Walk Away From Guys Who Are Just Not That Into Me

I am embarrassed to admit how many men I allowed in my life (and back in, and back in) who I knew were assholes but I thought if they just liked me enough, they would change. I was so nervous that no one else would ever show me a shred of affection that I convinced myself that terrible men were decent, kind human beings worth my time. Read more about how I learned to walk away.

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Daydream Dating

I have not had a lot of boyfriends in my life. But I’ve had thousands of crushes, who I have convinced myself that they are the one. But it’s not real, and I know this, because I don’t know these men. I know things about them. I think about what I’ve learned about them and I make them fit into what I want in life and what I want from them.

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How to find a wedding date

Obviously, I love weddings. I love an open bar, and a dance floor, and getting dressed up and feeling fancy. But one thing I hate: finding a date. I’m not good at it. And that might be largely due to the fact that most men in my life are keeping me warm, in case they feel like hanging out, once a moon cycle. In this essay, I describe my complicated relationship with weddings, dating, and my own independence.

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a letter to my future significant other

The Nation has a song, “Twenty Nine”, and there’s a line in it: You know I dreamed about you/For twenty-nine years before I saw you/You know I dreamed about you/I missed you for, for twenty-nine years

And that’s how I feel. I’ve been dreaming about my significant other for as long as I have lived.

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